Recently separated? How to ensure a smooth and enjoyable Christmas for you and your family.

Christmas is a time for celebration, so make sure your separation doesn’t affect your Christmas cheer this year.

Dealing with separation over Christmas

Everyone enjoys their traditions at Christmas – whether it is Christmas Ham and salad, BBQ on the deck or lovely roast pork & turkey cooked in the oven with the aircon on full blast!

If you are recently separated, this year there will be new traditions. Whilst separation can be hard on the children, for some, there will at least be the thrill of having Santa visit twice!

However your children may spend time over the Christmas period with you and your former partner, it is important that, as much as possible, arrangements are made in advance to help make it a great time for them and reduce any prospect of stress for you. You deserve to be happy too!

So, what can you do to help ensure a smooth Christmas that your children can enjoy?

The key is planning, preparation and communication. Here is some helpful tips to get you through the holiday season:

– Communicate with your former partner what the agreement is for Christmas (the time for changeover, who is dropping or who is collecting your children etc.).

– Communicate with your children, ask them what they enjoy the most about Christmas and try to make it happen (remembering of course, that you are the parent! If it’s just not possible for a request to happen – communicate that with them).

– Communicate the arrangement with your family and visitors so they aren’t surprised when the kids pack up to leave for time with the other parent.

– Plan your day so that you have something to do after the children have left to spend time with your former partner. Surround yourself with friends or family or give yourself a special treat.

– Prepare as much as you can the day before so precious moments with your children aren’t wasted running around the house cleaning and cooking to be ready for Christmas celebrations.

Just remember – Christmas should be a happy time for you and your children. Try not to let your children pick up on any stress you may feel. A stressed parent means an anxious child and the only thing your kids should be anxious about, is whether or not Santa will be coming!